Come into a relaxed, easy seat, palms resting in your lap. Use any props or bolsters to support your body into a comfortable seat where you can be relaxed but maintain an upright posture with a strong spine to prevent falling asleep but also to be free from distracting pain or strain. You may sit criss-cross apple sauce, on your knees with your legs tucked under you, or in a chair. Maintain a neutral upright posture where your shoulders remain over your hips, and you are neither leaning forward nor reclining back. Allow your chin to tuck slightly, elongating the back of the neck. You may find a point across the room upon which to focus your gaze, or you may focus your gaze at the tip of your nose and allow your eyes to half close, or you may close your eyes entirely. Begin to notice your breath as it comes in and out. Begin to slow your breathing and allow your lips to close so that you may breathe entirely in and out through your nose. Start to elongate your breaths making your exhale slightly longer than your inhale. For example, you may breathe in for a count of 4 and breathe out for a count of 8, counting internally. You may also use square breathing to elongate your breath cycle, breathing in for a count of 4, holding your breath for a count of 4, exhaling for a count of 4 and holding your breath out for a count of 4, before beginning with another inhale and repeating the same cycle. When a cycle of breath that feels relaxing and sustainable is reached, continue with this cycle. Feel your sit bones connecting with the seat beneath you and grounding you into the Earth below you as you breathe.
From this place of stillness and relaxed breathing, begin your desired course of meditation.
(You may follow the same steps as laid out above for a meditation in which you are laying on your back, finding a comfortable position laying on your mat or in your bed, using props as are helpful for support of your low back and body, choosing your gaze point or closing your eyes, and finding your relaxed cycle of breathing. Meditations in this prone position are used for relaxation, healing, rest and recovery or to prepare for sleep).
Belly Breathing
Deep breathing, or diaphragmatic breathing, is often called “belly breathing.” It involves inhaling and filling the lungs in such a way as to expand the abdomen, not the chest. In belly breathing the lungs expand downward, allowing much more air to be inhaled than during a normal chest breath. A belly breath provides much more oxygen to the body and helps lower the stress response.
How to Belly Breathe
1. Place one hand on your belly above your belly button and one hand on your upper chest.
1. Relax your belly.
2. Breathe in through your nose and fill your lungs.
3. Allow your lungs to fill downward and make the bottom hand move.
4. Pretend you have a balloon in your belly and blow it up with your breath.
5. Avoid shallow chest breathing and raising your shoulders.
6. Breathe out slowly like you are blowing a bubble and empty out the balloon. Feel the belly move.
How do you know you are taking a belly breath?
1. Place one hand on your chest and one hand on your belly. Just breathe as you usually breathe and notice which hand moves more. If the bottom hand moves, great, that’s a belly breath. If the top hand moves more, that’s a chest breath, which is associated with anxious breathing.
2. Intentionally take a shallow chest breath and breathe out on your hand. Notice the temperature as it flows across your fingers. Now intentionally take a belly breath and breathe out on your hand. Notice the temperature of the air as it flows across your fingers. Chest breath = colder air. Belly breath = warmer air.
3. Lie down on your back. Place an object on your belly such as a small stuffed animal. Now make the object go up and down with your breathing. If the object does not move while you are breathing, focus on intentionally moving that object on your belly with your in and out breath.
Basic Relaxation Breathing
This type of breathing is very helpful in deactivating the stress response. When we breathe in we activate our sympathetic nervous system, which activates our physiology as well as our stress response (the fight or flight response). When we activate our sympathetic nervous system our heart rate increases, pupils dilate, blood vessels constrict, sweat increases, and the digestive system slows down. We become more alert and overall tension increases. When we breathe out, we activate our parasympathetic nervous system. The parasympathetic nervous system is responsible for the “rest and digest” activities that occur when our body is at rest. When we exhale, our heart rate slows down, intestinal and glandular activity increases and we generally feel more relaxed. In other words, inhaling revs us up, and exhaling calms us down. This is why it is important in basic relaxation breathing to exhale twice as long as inhaling, to activate our parasympathetic nervous system twice as long with a result of calming our physiology and stress response.